Defence mechanism: Repression, psychological anesthetic, conflict between what they are feeling/thinking and what they need to present to form a connection with a person/group, so they repress their real needs, push away unappealing emotions in hopes that others will meet the needs that they are too proud to express
Strategic Helpfulness: unconsciously "giving to get" to become indispensable
Seductiveness: can't ask directly for what they need so they get what they want by charm and generosity, offer more than they have
Emotionality: excessively express emotion, ex. being cheerful to hide the sadness of not getting what they need from others, want to be seen as likeable by others, so will take criticisms personally
Romanticism: deep need for love and relationships
Shadow/Lost Self: can't see their own unmet need for love, so they give to others without limit, can't say no to another's request for help, lose touch with their sense of self when they shape-shift to become what others want them to be, can't see their sense of self worth and believe they are unlovable, like to be in a subordinate position supporting others in positions of power to get the validation of being indispensable
Core fears: Being worthless, needy, unhelpful, unacknowledged, disconnected
False Pride, self-inflation, believing we are the ones who can give people what they need, giving with strings attached
Being part of the image triad, the type 2 structure is based around creating a particular crafted self. For 2’s, the image created is exactly what you need. 2’s want to be seen as empathetic, emotional, and have a deep desire to connect with and help you. They enjoy being needed because they have the necessarily empathetic and understanding abilities to be indispensable to you. 2’s identify with this sense of pleasing sweetness, and avoid harshness and anything that is too off-putting for fear of losing that connection with people.
That being said, 2’s can be incredibly aggressive and militant in their endeavours to do the right thing for you. They need to believe that they have the solution to your problems, and pride themselves on the fact that you let them in and allowed them to heal you. There is a sense of hidden arrogance or pride at being able to know you better than you know yourself. It is extremely frustrating for 2’s when they feel they know how to be there for you, but you won’t allow it. 2’s want to help you along your journey, and they don’t want any credit for it. The idea of even having an image of helpfulness would be upsetting to a 2.
Part of the you-centredness of 2 is being blind to their own needs. Since they identify so much with helping others, it can be difficult for them to ask for anything themselves. They believe that they deserve to be compensated for all the good they do, although it won’t be easy for them to access that deep dark forbidden selfishness.
2’s want to wrap themselves around your heart, have access to your entire being, but from a place of control where they can keep their own needs hidden. The difference between the Sexual instinct and core 2 is that sexual has a sense of vulnerability of self, whereas 2’s want to nurture the vulnerability of others.
Lines of Movement
2 moves to 4
Positive: admit and accept their own painful feelings, explore their inner world and express it artistically, learn to say no, learn to be alone
Negative: compare themselves with others, feel melancholic or self-absorbed, become depressed and withdrawn
2 moves to 8
Positive: feel confidence and power, are more honest and straight-forward rather than flattering, care less about what others think of them
Negative: lose sense of kindness and become aggressive, irritable and attack people, become hardened and mistrustful, blame people, become demanding and controlling
Comparisons with Other Types
2 vs 1: Both superego types, 1's are harder on themselves, 2's will not holdback emotional outbursts
2 vs 3: 2's have superego about what they "should" do, 3's are driven by self-success
2 vs 4: 2 is a positive type and 4 is a reactive type, 4's don't want anyone to make their problems seem solvable, 2's are other-oriented and 4's are self-oriented, 4's are elitist and have no desire to appear nice or sweet; 4's would see 2's as daring to have the audacity to assume anyone even like them
2 vs 5: They both are blind to their own emotions at times, 2 is emotionally wet and 5 is dry, 2's love people, 5's are avoidant
2 vs 6: Both superego types, both can be helpful and emotional, 2's are more sure of themselves and 6's more reactive, 2's help because they're sure the other needs it, 6's find protection in others and like being dutiful
2 vs 7: Both positive types, 7's don't generally "help" unless they want to because it threatens their freedom, 2's feel obligated
2 vs 8: 2''s want to be good, 8's want to be bad
2 vs 9: 2's are controlling and assertive, 9's are open and receptive