triads
Explore the many connections of this ancient symbol
Centres of Intelligence
Body/Gut - 891
Anger-based, how do you assert yourself as a separate individual being that is different than others, “anger” is standing up to reality, ego boundaries
9: Blurred boundary between the self and others, external surroundings can fill up the 9 as they are malleable as a separate being
8: Overly asserting one’s existence, easy access to anger, pushing against any threat to their being
1: Finding a way to exist that’s “right,” adding the superego into the body space, strong boundary
Heart/Image - 234
Shame, who are you supposed to be to yourself and others, the shame of not measuring up to that image, emotional processing
3: Image of being the best of whatever it is you are, being marketable to others as a person
2: Image of being necessary and loved by others, being needed and indispensable as a warm and caring presence to others
4: Image of being separate from others and too unworthy to belong, making the negativity of being an alien something beautiful
Head - 567
Fear, how do you navigate through a dangerous world, processing using the mind, questions
6: Being vigilant and double-checking, not straying too far from “others” in terms of who you are
5: Withholding all your energy from others to avoid the messy emotions that can drain your highly-sensitive system
7: Distracting yourself from harsh realities with fun and movement
harmonic triads
How each type handles conflict; how they handle situations where their needs are not met; coping mechanisms; worldview
Reactive - 468
Emotionally reactive under stress, hard time containing their feelings, need you to see the problem that they can see, pointing out the “bad” thing
4: Reacts in self-absorption and amplification of inner states, feelings of hatred fuelled by inadequacy, expressing negativity is “authenticity”
6: Reacts in outspoken combat, standing up for what they believe, drawing attention to anything that feels wrong or dangerous, emotionally moody, anxiety
8: Reacts in force, untethered anger and denial of vulnerability
Positive - 279
See the positives, find ways to bring light and avoid negativity, “everything will be okay”
2: Focus on the goodness in themselves and others, amplify their lovable aspects, keep people close by being a good person
7: Actively avoiding negativity by making life fun, creating some chaos for momentum and distraction
9: Seek harmony and peace, avoid big waves and disturbances
Competency - 135
Focus on objectivity and rationality, doing things correctly and competently, neutrality
1: Reigning in impulses and funnelling them into rigidity and correctness
3: Work ethic, focus on being able to do things well, repressing soft feelings in favour of productivity
5: Knowledge seeking, over focus on detached objectivity, ignoring emotions
Further reiterations:
4-6-8: Quickly/Impulsively provoking to uncover hidden negative truth for catharsis; putting people through stress test to find their truth
6: the truth is the information you don’t have (head), I have to offer it: the truth is the bad thoughts and actions people are hiding, I need to get everyone on board with exposing it (attachment)
8: the truth is in your sense of boundary (gut); if I push you into a corner (rejection), that’s who you really are, a universal “no”
4: the truth is what’s under the personality mask (image); if I’m singularly separate and honest about my negative emotions (frustration), I’ll provoke the truth about yours, you can’t possibly be happy, trying to get people to talk about their negative feelings
2-7-9: Avoiding the full processing of negativity in favour of widespread hopefulness
2: A proud hopefulness that my goodness (image) is exactly what’s needed (rejection)
7: Rapidly ejecting my running wheel of playful thoughts (head) to alleviate the existential boredom (frustration)
9: Offering a universal “yes” to all existence (gut attachment)
1-3-5: Becoming a machine to detach from or reconcile the polarity of negative/positive
1: Detaching from self to be an on ongoing catalyst for a universal sense (gut) of corrective (frustration) right and wrong
3: Neutralizing positive and negative emotions (image) by adapting (attachment) to an image of self-improvement
5: Acting as a thought island (head rejection) to avoid the external chaos of humanity, thereby becoming a machine
hornevian groups
How each type moves in relation to other people, stances, how they get what they need/want
Assertive - 378
Moving against others, focus on what the self needs/wants, “demand” needs
3: Goal-oriented, productive, action-based
7: Asserting their right to have fun, entitled to take what they want
8: Power and strong boundary, untethered anger
Compliant/Superego - 126
Moving with others, focus on what others’ need/want, society, “earn” needs
1: Justice, social standards, doing what’s right rather than what you want
2: Focus on the needs of others rather than self
6: Focus on building a secure environment for all, being “human,” tribes
Withdrawn - 459
Moving away from others, focus either self or others without moving towards others, “withdraw” to get needs
4: Image of inadequacy and separateness, broken alien
5: Detachment from people to preserve the self, nerdy alien
9: Introspection, withdrawing from self into a haze
object relations
Find the best information on Object Relations in the following 4 podcast episodes:
Object Relations are how we affect or are affected by something/someone else, our ego in relation to other people/things as a manifestation of a particular parental wound
Attachment - 369
The struggle between individuation and adaptation
3: Being or doing whatever it takes to gain unconditional love
6: Creating maps to support systems at the detriment of your own inner faith and decisiveness
9: The ego and body itself over-adapting by being in unity
Frustration - 147
A strategy based on frustration at not getting needs met
1: Becoming the ultimate guiding force to compensate for the lack thereof from the protective object
4: The frustration that anything external is shallow, a focus on the self as the replacement for nurturing and protective objects
7: Fruitless automatic search for the breast/womb via exciting but shallow experiences
Rejection - 258
The amplification of one need to distract from the pain of not getting the other
2: Amplifying their need for relationship and connection due to having rejected the need for guidance and protection, mothering identification
5: Rejecting both the need for nurture and protection, thereby rejecting the human condition
8: Amplifying their toughness and becoming invulnerable due to having rejecting their need for nurture and unconditional love